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I laughed when you said eat the ice cream first then the frog. But when I thought about it, maybe it's actually what people with ADHD were meant to do. ADHD people ate food first to fuel them to focus on hunts. While neurotypicals ate later after the people ADHD people finished the hunt. But because there's no need to hunt for food in modern day society, ADHD people struggle to focus because they aren't fed enough to work efficiently.

even when i push myself and try to do important things , i end up daydreaming for hours,,, i have a very important exam in two months, and I'm unable to do anything , though I don't wanna feel frustrated after seeing the result ,,,

I wonder if I’m experiencing RSD because it makes sense of so many things in my life. I pretty much avoid any interaction that leads to criticism nowadays but earlier in the week I was scrolling online and tried replying to a persons comment but was notified that they had blocked me and it pretty much sent me into 20 minutes of crying and sobbing and then I spent half an hour deleting as many comments as I could find because I’m almost certain those were their reason for doing it, it just hurts a lot as I’ve always been considered annoying irl and feeling that way online too makes it even worse.

I found this video after starting to learn coding for the 57th time and ngl i i figured out the micro breaks one on my own like actualy yesterday

Thank you so much Jesse ! This was very helpful 🙏

Thanks. Watching stuff like this inspires me to then go and force myself to do hard stuff, to kind of prove/demonstrate I don't have ADHD lmao.

I love seeing videos like these and reading so many comments about people having experiences just like mine.. I'm not diagnosed yet and sometimes I feel so alone bc of the fact that i don't have much people to talk to about my everyday thoughts. So then all the guilt and the impostor syndrome comes for me..but reading and listening to all of this really makes me feel so relieved and validated, i love this community so much.

Watching that video feels like you are reading my mind to extract so many things that I have tried and failed at in the past. Kind of scary tbh. I tried GTD when It was launched., Made perfect sense to me but I never made it to work for me at all,. Like so many other things... I am half-way through your video writing this...

At 37 I wasn't even diagnosed until this year, it's crazy to me hearing you describe all the things that I struggled with to a "T". If I had been diagnosed in high school when I was tested my adult life would have been so much more manageable up to this point.... Better late than never though

superb! i'm going to go wash 4 dishes

Me too. ….”She has Great potential if she would only focus more, talk WAY less, stop interrupting CONSTANTLY and THEN she can excel..” Right. Cool….. So that’s what I heard as a 11 year old,(from my FAVOURITE teacher during the parent/teacher interview… yes teachers, the kids can still HEAR YOU WHEN THEY’RE IN THE HALLWAY), as I was ALSO Being ruthlessly bullied btw bc I was ( and I quote this being said TO ME by a couple girls in my class on a regular basis.., they used to rotate their insults) Some top examples are: “You’re SO ANNOYING!” /“Don’t you know no one ACTUALLY likes you!?”…/ “we only talk to you bc if we don’t we will get In trouble” / No guy would ever date a f$&@Ing loser like you/ your so fu)&ing ugly/ Why are you so stupid?/ Do you EVER stop talking? / No you can’t sit with us/ Why would he like YOU?!?’ As if! (Then laughing hysterically) / Oh did I not invite you to the party? My bad. I REALLY wanted to but I was only allowed -- many people, and well, you know. Maybe next time you can come? …. Then invites 15 more people then she said could come, conveniently every single person in our class except me…. Yup. Life with ADHD was a blast.

I do beleive you have ADHD unlike % 90 of the monkeys in youtube who claims they got adhd to rip off people with neurodifferent mind .I feel like im waatchinf dr russel barkley spitting facts where normies who got 0 clue wont understand whaats going on . I need to check more of your videos because you really point out REAL ADHD Issues.

bro i am dessperate i am diognised at 38 and now all makes sense 4-5 months on long release methylblabla and i need to study and learn stuff plx help SOS

I learned years ago, breaking down projects didn’t help, however I learned to eat the frog through the pathway of impulsivity.

for me it is something cognitive. To me the exact moment i realize i am being misunderstood, provides the information that i have to either justify myself, lie or accept being misjudged and live with a reputation of guilt. Many times people confuse the cognitive stess with a fragile ego, but nooooo, its the complication thats exhausting. BTW most people aren't good at giving constructive kritique

I feel understood 😂

Making this video my homepage so I can't accidentally forget it. lol

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS. I know i have ADHD but haven’t been diagnosed yet. My life has been falling apart and I don’t know how to deal with it anymore.

My ADHD is soo bad I can’t even finish this video 😂

10:16 LMAO this is so true! I'm currently studying computer science. It's so easy to open up twitter, seeing a new ✨ shiny ✨ tech announced and get lost fiddling with it.

Oh my gosh.. I used to always do the last question first on math tests…

Those evil, evil neurotypicals always trying to hold us back

Amazing, somehow you can explain my challenges better than i can :)

your video might explain my flactuating results... i dont know if i have adhd, but interest directly correlates to my results. thank you very much for this video

What bothers me the most is not being diagnosed with ADHD at an earlier stage. My mission is to create sufficient resources to support individuals struggling with ADHD, particularly young children, who often face a challenging and traumatic experience due to this condition's overwhelming impact on their daily lives.

You literally just described my adult life down to some of the minutest details. I’m blown away. What’s crazy is I’ve had many similar experiences like this since I started learning about ADHD. But this video is the most spot on of all.

I like to compete with the timer with short tasks. 17:12 I tell myself, “I bet I can put away the mail properly in less than 18 minutes.” I try to guess as close as I really think it’ll take, and then see if I can be faster. I do not have a competitive spirit what so ever. It’s my sort of backwards self-motivation.

Wow

So that explains why my mind is always perceiving every situation in the worst case scenario causing me to lash out at myself

Dude you know well that these type of books don't help much, a giant book is the classic overwhelm for anyone with adhd. People need bite sized formats with adhd. Did Dani pay you to review? If so please disclose it. You may not like this comment but I hope it makes others aware that this is just another marketing platform. Anyone who reads this please watch dr.russell barkley, who has a wealth of free information on adhd that has ZERO marketing intentions and only seeks to help educate and help others.

Glad to know I'm not the only one who gets overwhelmed by breaking a project up into small steps! It does work for me...as long as I convince myself that the ONLY thing that needs to be done is the first small step and the rest doesn't exist. It's not a fool-proof system but it does help break the inertia.

THAAAAANK YOU! This was really useful. I felt understood because you literally described how I felt! And thank you so much for advices. I will use them⚡️God bless you🙌🏼

Oh my goodness all day trying to catch the frog 🐸 but going for strategies instead of actions! Thank you for the video! You saved my life 😆🙏🏻💖✨✨✨ GOD BLESS

Have dual Asperger’s and combined ADHD with complex maths disabilities along with anxiety

Neurotypical strategies dont work. GTD and all of that bushido that my manager kept pushing down my throat only gave me more mental grief than help me achieve. Eventually I had to quit.

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So for the people on the receiving end of this disorder what do we do? The anger we receive from this disorder is not easy to understand or how to figure out what to do to help our loved ones when they feel like this because sometimes we get our feelings hurt by these actions from RSD?

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 🗣️ Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) is a term used to describe intense emotional reactions to perceived criticism or rejection, often associated with ADHD. 💔 Individuals with RSD experience feelings that are disproportionately severe compared to the actual criticism received, often feeling betrayed or deeply hurt. 🌪️ Reactions can range from rage and anger to profound sadness or emotional shutdown, significantly affecting the person's state of mind. 🔄 RSD can lead to extreme behaviors such as becoming a people pleaser or overachiever to avoid potential criticism or withdrawing socially to avoid scrutiny. 🛑 Recognizing the signs of RSD can help manage reactions by identifying them as disproportionate responses rather than realistic reflections of external criticisms. 🕰️ Creating space after an RSD episode allows for a calmer reassessment of the situation and can prevent immediate, regrettable reactions. 🔍 Reflecting on past positive interactions with the person who triggered the RSD can help assess the likelihood of intended harm, often revealing a misunderstanding. 🌿 Reducing overall stress and maintaining good mental health are essential in managing the frequency and intensity of RSD episodes. Made with HARPA AI

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 *🧠 Introduction to Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD)* - Discusses the emotional impact of perceived criticism or rejection, especially among individuals with ADHD, described as Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. - Highlights the disproportion between actual criticism and the intense emotional response it triggers in individuals. 01:26 *😢 Emotional Impact of RSD* - Details the extreme emotional responses to perceived slights, ranging from rage to profound sadness. - Explains how these reactions can seem overly dramatic to outsiders and even to the individuals themselves upon reflection. 02:25 *🔄 Coping Mechanisms for RSD* - Explores how individuals with RSD might become people-pleasers or overachievers to avoid criticism and rejection. - Discusses the tendency to withdraw from social interactions and ambitions as a means of avoiding potential negative feedback. 03:22 *🌪️ Consequences of Misinterpreted Interactions* - Narrates personal experiences where misinterpretations of feedback or criticism led to significant life changes, such as job loss. - Emphasizes how RSD can damage close relationships when individuals misinterpret the actions or words of those they care about. 04:17 *🏷️ Understanding and Identifying RSD* - Discusses the importance of recognizing RSD and distinguishing it from realistic reactions to actual events. - Suggests that labeling the experience as RSD can help in managing the immediate emotional responses by providing perspective. 05:14 *🕰️ Creating Space to Manage Reactions* - Recommends creating physical or temporal space after an RSD episode to allow for a more rational reassessment of the situation. - Shares personal strategies used in tense situations to prevent immediate, regrettable reactions by pausing and reassessing. 06:15 *🔍 Reflecting on Relationship Histories* - Advises reflecting on the history of relationships to assess whether negative intentions are consistent with someone's character. - Suggests that understanding past interactions can help mitigate the immediate impact of RSD by providing context. 07:11 *🛡️ Reducing Stress to Decrease RSD Episodes* - Stresses the importance of maintaining physical and mental health to minimize the frequency and intensity of RSD responses. - Proposes that a healthier lifestyle can reduce the likelihood of extreme reactions to perceived rejections or criticisms. Made with HARPA AI

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 *📚 Introduction to The Anti-Planner* - Introduction and overview of The Anti-Planner by Dani Donovan, highlighting its unique design and purpose. - Emphasizes the planner's focus on helping users manage productivity in a non-traditional format, particularly suitable for people with ADHD. 01:05 *🧭 Exploring The Anti-Planner's Features* - Detailed walkthrough of The Anti-Planner's features, including tabs for different productivity challenges like feeling stuck or overwhelmed. - Discusses the planner's structure, designed to offer practical strategies for tackling common productivity blocks. 02:03 *🔄 Strategies for Overcoming Perfectionism* - Focuses on strategies within The Anti-Planner to help users combat perfectionism and unrealistic expectations. - Includes various tools and tips tailored to engage and assist individuals with ADHD in managing their tasks more effectively. 03:34 *📧 Managing Email Overload* - Presents specific strategies for handling email overload, a common issue for many, particularly those with ADHD. - Introduces a batching technique to efficiently process emails, reducing the stress and buildup of unmanaged communications. 04:32 *🤹‍♂️ Idea Parking Lot Strategy* - Introduces the Idea Parking Lot as a creative tool for capturing fleeting ideas without losing focus on current tasks. - Encourages users to write down spontaneous ideas in a structured format, ensuring they are not forgotten while maintaining productivity on current projects. 05:03 *🛠️ Breaking Down Overwhelming Tasks* - Discusses methods for breaking down large, overwhelming tasks into manageable steps. - Provides clear examples of how to structure task breakdowns effectively to reduce feelings of overwhelm and increase actionable steps. 06:57 *🎲 Novelty and Flexibility in Task Management* - Explores the use of novelty, such as the card game strategy, to make task management engaging and manageable for ADHD individuals. - Emphasizes the importance of flexibility and novelty in maintaining interest and motivation in productivity tasks. 08:33 *🚀 Strategies for Tackling Motivation Issues* - Provides an array of strategies to combat common motivational problems faced by individuals with ADHD. - Includes practical tips for initiating tasks and maintaining momentum once started. Made with HARPA AI

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 *🚫 Introduction to Toxic Productivity and Personal Experience* - Jesse Anderson discusses his introduction to toxic productivity concepts and how they affect those with ADHD. - Shares personal experiences of discovering his ADHD and the challenges of traditional productivity expectations. 02:18 *📚 Exploration of Productivity Systems and Their Failure* - Discusses the adoption of "Getting Things Done" and other productivity systems that ultimately failed to support his ADHD. - Highlights the neurotypical basis of popular productivity strategies and their incompatibility with ADHD brains. 04:39 *🧠 Flaws in Neurotypical Productivity Systems for ADHD* - Identifies major flaws in conventional productivity systems: lack of motivating factors, distraction susceptibility, and overwhelm. - Emphasizes the ineffectiveness of traditional motivational strategies and productivity advice for those with ADHD. 07:12 *🐸 Debunking Common Productivity Advice* - Critiques common productivity advice like "eat the frog" which does not translate well for ADHD individuals. - Explores the challenges of breaking projects into too many steps, leading to avoidance and overwhelming feelings. 12:18 *🧲 Rethinking Motivation and Productivity for ADHD* - Suggests alternative ways to find motivation using interest-based methods: captivate, create, compete, and complete. - Describes how these motivational strategies can help initiate and maintain productivity for individuals with ADHD. 15:04 *💡 Strategies to Implement ADHD-friendly Productivity* - Offers practical strategies tailored for ADHD productivity, including embracing the pivot, using Pomodoro timers, and engaging in micro-commitments. - Discusses changing environments and creating games out of tasks to increase engagement and motivation. 19:44 *🌍 Conclusion and Call to Action* - Encourages using the discussed strategies to make a positive impact in personal productivity and broader life aspects. - Invites the audience to connect, share feedback, and participate in his upcoming projects including a book on ADHD. Made with HARPA AI

So much fun when you have ADHD and BPD. I remember bawling my eyes out at work over some mild criticism and a confused co worker saying "this is not a normal reaction you're having". Que a fresh wave or RSD!

This is exactly why I take neurotypicals' advice on ANYTHING with a grain of salt. They typically have no idea what they're talking about. They only know what works for them and that their solution will work for everyone else. Human egocentrism at its finest. It's not their fault...but it's not ours, either. What is hurtful is when the NT not only doesn't understand, but doesn't WANT to understand.

This is me. I associate SO much with this. Just hearing someone exactly describing this demon tormenting me brings tear to my eyes because you feel SO alone, and no one close to you can understand

this video made sense until you mentioned pomodoro timers. that stuff is the final boss of toxic productivity and i don't understand how you think it does anything for ADHD when you're bound to either completely lose focus within the time you're supposed to do the task or become physically unable to take a break from what you're doing.

one of the better videos about this that I've seen out there! thank you

Man you made me laugh with this one cuz the things you said are so true. You were definitely speaking to me! 😅

Best neurotypical video of all time! I was just trying to explain how my whole life is a bucket of frogs and I’m just sick of it! 🐸

Thank you so much I feel alot better now. Your channel is a blessing.

I nearly cried while watching. His words strikes deep into my heart. Breaking things up in to smaller tasks has turned nightmare into absolute catastrophe. This guy here truly understands what life with ADHD is like.