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I am a therapist and I think Jess is horrible and as someone who has been cheated on , No I didn't think this was cute.

It's funny how you bring up the example of James Bond because the same thing happened with the clones from Clone Wars. I know you've watched and enjoyed it. The clones all have their own personalities and wants. They're humanized and shown to be vulnerable at times, and the ones that survived were given tremendous character growth. There's a portion of the fans that hate this development. They preferred the clones being soulless killing machines that only care about following orders and being badass. They mention often that Captain Rex, THE clone, is just a pale copy of the original that he was based on and weak and sappy because he expresses emotions beyond the expectations and limitations of our society. It's really sad because these kinds of people are denying themselves and others the full experience of what it is to be human in favor of mindless rage and lust. That they would become therapists and say that to a grieving would-be father is appalling. I don't know how we as a society can change this mindset because this hurts everyone, but the sooner the better.

I think it is situational. I think he gave them the ice cream for multiple reasons. They were trying to share, and he really didn't want it to begin with... but gave in to a craving. The girls are young, and they have plenty of time for natural consequence lessons ... and mostly, he just wanted to enjoy the time with his girls. It is shown that Bandit goes on work trips... sometimes long ones. So, giving in to their wants and just sitting in the park to have quality time is just going to give his girls the special dad time memories that get them through the times when he's away.... and Chili so much needed time alone.

When I first saw this episode, I too thought that he shouldn't have given his ice cream to them. But rewatching made me think: the problem wasn't them running around with their ice creams, neither them asking for too many things, but their obsession with how much they give and how much they get in return. So once they saw what happens if they obsess about it, their dad modeled how to be not-obsessed-about-it by giving them his ice cream, and not expecting anything in return. Also, buying them new ice cream would have felt like rescuing them from their bad feelings. It had to be the dad giving them his own.

14:25 it's hard to be supportive for myself, but for others it's easy for me.

Today on Man-ded Light :D My question about the "toxic masculinity" vs "limiting masculinity": Isn't the first just shorthand for "the toxic part of masculinity"? Because if masculinity itself was toxic by design, the word toxic would be redundant, like saying "male stallion" when stallion is already defined as an "an adult male horse that is used for breeding" (cambridge dictionary) And if it was toxic by definition, then "limiting" would not take away the "toxic" part anyway, but adding an attribute to it ^^

For years my resolution was to get organized with papers and mail but surprisingly realized after many failed resolutions (same number) it would be changing my personality so I gave up on that pressure. Now of course there’s less paper and mail in our lives so it was moot 😉

I didn't know bandit sharing his ice cream, and teaching them to share was controversial. Like you said, he was being a role model.

You should watch the videos Robbie Harvey does about things women have been told after having a miscarriage. It is horrendous.

Irony....I am hopelessly depressed so obviously this video didn't help much. I have ever increasing, unrelenting depression. The older I get, the worse it gets. It's like a terminal illness. It will be with me until the day I die. Whether or not it actually causes my death, remains to be seen. BTW I exercise religiously.

Also, men need hugs. That can be step one. Just ask for hugs from other men, even if you are not great yet at putting feelings of vulnerability into words. Women know how much soothing platonic touch can work wonders at emotional regulation and anxiety control.

there are bad therapists just like there are bad everything elses under the sun 😢

I never heard that reaction to the latest bond. As far as I remember it was well received.

I am so glad you mentioned empathic pain. If someone makes fun of my loved one, I am going to hurt with them. If they are disappointed I am disappointed too. Planned pregnancies are a very deeply shared experience.

I'm a man and trying to remove my toxic traits

My poor husband was an absolute mess when I lost 2 early term pregnancies. There wasn't a lot of physical pain as those pregnancies hadn't progressed that far. But my husband felt those losses just as keenly as I did. We needed each other in those times, and we needed the support of our friends.

The sheer rage hearing this after going through that with my partner is undiscribable

"Men experience emotions as deeply and profoundly as women do" YES. I'm a trans man. I'm 35 and been on T for 1 year and 4 months so i've lived as a woman until my mid 30s. T hasn't taken away my emotions AT ALL. They are the same. I do cry less, not sure 100% if that's the T or just because i'm happier in my body now but I can still cry obviously and feel the exact same emotions I did before. I mean yea... I am hornier but that's about it. I really need to watch Rocky.

1. I can't believe that any therapist would say that 2. Great video. I wish I had seen something like this ages ago.

As a devil's advocate, is it possible that the "crap therapist" did not see the father working within the environment of therapy & pushed (incorrectly) with that phrase in order to attempt to get the father to push back harder with his actual feelings as opposed to "scripted" answers that revealed nothing of the father's true feelings? (I am not saying it was right, but I could see someone frustrated with trying to help & eventually trying this as a way to get a real reaction out of the individual.)

My grandfather struggles to receive and show affection. He is 80. He used to shake my brother's hand (not hug him) my brother goes in for a hug and he cringes a little. He also looks uncomfortable when I hug him and kiss his cheek (but be looks quietly pleased too) we show him affection partly because we think it's good for him. We understand he struggles to receive affection partly due to being a man from a particular generattion and society but we think it's good to challenge him on this and we think altgough he's a bit uncomrtable he also looks pleased. I think it's a bit sad that he struggles to show and receive affection. I think it's ro do with mascuelinity and vulnerability. My brother doesnt want to shake his grandad's hand. He wants to hug him My grandfather is more cinfortable showing affection to women then men. He is affectionate to his grandauggters not hus grandson, but he still finds it difficult

I just love you two❤

Wow. We simply THOUGHT we had miscarried our little baby, and that just wrecked me. Unbelievable.

Oh my gosh the way my jaw dropped hearing that crap therapist 😭 like, I'm not a parent, I'm still a teen, and even I know not to give that stupid of advice 😭😭😭

I think dad made the best choice, cause he told them straight out that this was how it went and how they got there and that they were at fault themselves. He told them they wouldn't get a new ice cream and let that sink in for a bit for them to learn. Then gave them his ice cream, which was not the one they had ordered themselves but they were happy and had learned from it. As you said paying forward the kindness. So he showed them what the consequence could've been and how it felt for a little bit, and giving them a chance to try again, and they succeeded this time.

Next time I see my therapist, I will tell him how awesome he is, he’s never said anything that absurd, even when I disparage myself, he asks me to consider altering my phrasing a bit. This isn’t so much of an example of disparaging, but when I was weeping over having to put my dog down, I had said “I know it was time, he was ready, I couldn’t let him suffer.” He asked to consider it more that I “wouldn’t” let him suffer, and that did help.

We are different from one another. We don't have any ducks, or dogs, but we have a Dragon, and we have just Darkness who is a non human alter. WE got triggered a few weeks ago, and we are still rapid switching and it's so hard to function when we can't seem to get through a day with out 50 switches. How can we re ground ourselfs? Some pyshciartrists say that DiD is not a real diagnosis, and that it's caused by therapists putting the idea into the patients head, and the patient then tries to be what they were just told they are. This was said to us, and it damaged us a lot. It made us feel "not real' Talk about depersonalization... the Therapist depersonalized us!!!! invalidated us. Said we were not even a real thing. It took a lot of therapy from a different therapist to undo all that. Why do some mental health 'professionals' not believe in DID? and what can we do about it, when they say that? we live our reality every day, they see us for maybe 20 minutes to an hour and think they know the answers? think we are not "real" do they think we pretend? make this up? for 'attention' What is that? what does it mean to just do something "for attention" We don't want that kind of attention. that's why we hide and just pretend to be the host. We tell hardly anyone that we are DID as they often don't believe us. We're even scared, to post video's on our youtube channel, in case someone that knows us face to face see's, or in case trolls and bullies make nasty comments on the video. Being DID... hurts. it's so lonely. Especially when outside people don't even believe that you are real. We don't exist! according to them. and yet....................................... here we are.

I'm sorry but who wouldn't be upset by losing a wanted child??? Man or no??

Hi John, I in the last few days told a friend of 7 years that I wanted to seperate for a bit so then I could I better understand the hurt I was experiencing from our relationship. For context: we’ve always been kind of attached at the hip, all through high school we would spend multiple days sleeping over and having so many late night drives. If one of us were in any emotional distress the other was always there, but in my senior year unfortunately my household was no longer totally safe for me to stay in because of family issues. So her family offered me to stay with her; there I thought it would be the best summer I’d ever had, and with everything going so terribly with my family, I thought it would be the right thing for me. But, once I moved in, she became very irritable, avoidant, mean, would say very insensitive/snarky comments about me or any choices I would make, and overall made me feel like an insignificant speck in her life. In this time I was more fragile than I ever been, and hopeless. I did what I could to keep up the happy energy for everyone, but it only lead to me draining myself. I began resenting her, and I tried many times to talk to her to maybe reconcile what was happening between us. To me it felt as though she wasn’t really my friend anymore, because to me friends would never make each other feel the way she made me feel. So, i moved out. I now go to college in New York, and my life is getting better and more positive. I made some amazing friends and I told them about what happened between me and my past friend. After sharing with them I realized I had been holding onto hurt feelings, and I had moved out 6 months ago. Initially I asked her if we could talk in person when I came home…but then I realized I couldn’t do that. So, I left her a text message because doing so felt like the only viable option that would allow me to be honest with her without having the pressure of being faced to face (where I could easily lie about how I was feeling). By this point I had time to really sit and think about what really happened and it only made me more angry. I told I wanted to take a break as friends, but she saw it as a break-up. She responded with attacking my character, telling me that I’ve hurt her family and her as well (she didn’t go into detail, and I’m still unaware of what I’ve done), and that she would have done anything to retain the friendship we had. At the time, I was surrounded by my boyfriend and sister, and they did not like her response. I was so shocked, and then I realized why she might’ve felt betrayed by my message. I responded, and I told her I was sorry that it came out the way it did and that it was not my intention to be hurtful but it is how I feel. I continued to tell her that her response made me feel as though there was obviously no room for her to see how I felt that to her I was 100% the bad guy in the story. So, I told her if this is how we’re going to end things then fine, and shared my devastation behind her words and her immaturity. Her family did a lot for me, and I shared how grateful I was…but she didn’t care. Which is her right. But I can’t help but think that I was totally in the wrong for even starting the whole situation in the first place. Am I the bad guy? Thank you John:)

Problem is when she is proven right there is never acknowledgement a apology. Most of the time authority just takes credit for everything. And in our world would still be sent to prison.

What longer video is this a clip from please? 🙏

Today's episode of Bluey is called *"FAIR."* Bandit gave a great lesson in what fairness is! Princess Bride level!

Bluey ❤

Ik that im going to end my life soon and that’s cuz I’m tired of getting hurt physicallyand verbally and emotionally and mentally people don’t see me I’m just glass and I’m always alone .. lol I don’t even know my father my mother is dead I don’t have any family or friends like.. and y am I here and who am I? Anyway ik that no one cares but I just wanted to share to .. I’m sorry

the first lil part of the video lowkey discribed my dad😂. omg

Is this a valid reason to not be able to function in a workplace environment, and wiil i be able to receive social security benefits? I am unable to be around people. I cannot get along with others. My mood changes every minute. Does Perimenopause affect Borderline Personality disorder (BPD)? Is Multiple Personality disorder ("MPD") the same as BPD?

My brother kept the last text Mum sent him before she died, which said I love you, don't bother coming back to the hospital, Im fine...' and then Vodaphone changed their network and deleted it, he was devastated.

I almost didn't bother watching this one, because I felt the previous videos in this series didn't really apply, or maybe I didn't agree with. This one spoke to me where I am. And helped me see where I am. And maybe even gave me a view of where the journey should go next. Thank you.

I like that he gave them the ice cream, they had already realised the consequences of their actions and were sad, and he gave them a second chance. If giving them his ice cream had resulted in another argument where it was clear they had not learnt, he probably wouldn't bail them out again.

I focus on “fair” so much because when I was young I couldn’t have “special treatment”(like sitting in the front car seat when I was big enough because my little brother couldn’t, and when he was big enough we always had to switch) because that wasn’t fair to my little brother. When it’s the other way around then it’s fine- I had to wait until i was in high school before I got a proper first phone(not that we couldn’t get one it’s just they didn’t want me to have one too fast) but what does my little brother get in early middle school? An Iphone. I truly don’t care about things being fair, I know life isn’t fair and situations affect what’s considered “fair”; my problem is when it has to be fair for everyone else but it doesn’t matter when it’s the other way around, JUST DONT CLAIM IN THE NAME OF FAIRNESS IF YOU ARENT GOING TO BE FAIR. So I guess my problem is people being hypocritical rather than things not being fair.

I lay in bed and cry.

what growth? He's just letting himself get bossed around by slyve.

why not hurt who hurt you instead of anyone else?

Mobius not morbius. morbius is a different character.

He's crazy. More than a bag of cats

Hi sr, Hi sr, I need your help. I don't like my wife. I don't want to live with her for a moment and I have been thinking about divorce for a long time. She said that she is pregnant and the Child will be an orphan. I just want my wife out of my life. The only thing holding me back is guilt. What should I do?

Can you react to season 3, episode 34 - Space or season 3, episode 31- Onesie