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Susan Winter
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SUSAN WINTER is a leading relationship expert and love coach who has helped over 6,000 people find (and keep) love. Internationally recognized as a thought leader in her field, Susan is a bestselling author (Older Women/Younger Men, Allowing Magnificence, and Breakup Triage) who writes, speaks and coaches on dating issues, relationship challenges, and personal empowerment.
Susan’s 950+ media credits include: THE OPRAH WINFREY SHOW, TODAY SHOW, CNN HEADLINE NEWS, ABC EVENING NEWS, CNBC, FOX NEWS, BBC, ITV NEWS, TALKTV UK, COSMO, PEOPLE, BUSINESS INSIDER, FORBES, FORTUNE, NEW YORK MAGAZINE, THE LONDON TIMES, IRISH EXAMINER, MUMBAI MIRROR, TIMES OF INDIA, and THE NEW YORK TIMES. In radio, Susan is a frequent guest on NPR, BBC, ABC, and CBS NEWS. Public speaking keynotes: THE WORLD ECONOMIC FORUM, INTERNATIONAL MENTAL HEALTH FESTIVAL, CORE CLUB NYC, and 1880 CLUB SINGAPORE. Her podcast, The Susan Winter Show, is on Spotify, Apple Music, and Amazon Prime. www.susanwinter.net
Susan’s 950+ media credits include: THE OPRAH WINFREY SHOW, TODAY SHOW, CNN HEADLINE NEWS, ABC EVENING NEWS, CNBC, FOX NEWS, BBC, ITV NEWS, TALKTV UK, COSMO, PEOPLE, BUSINESS INSIDER, FORBES, FORTUNE, NEW YORK MAGAZINE, THE LONDON TIMES, IRISH EXAMINER, MUMBAI MIRROR, TIMES OF INDIA, and THE NEW YORK TIMES. In radio, Susan is a frequent guest on NPR, BBC, ABC, and CBS NEWS. Public speaking keynotes: THE WORLD ECONOMIC FORUM, INTERNATIONAL MENTAL HEALTH FESTIVAL, CORE CLUB NYC, and 1880 CLUB SINGAPORE. Her podcast, The Susan Winter Show, is on Spotify, Apple Music, and Amazon Prime. www.susanwinter.net
How Slow is Too Slow in Dating? Waiting vs. Wasting Time – How To Know the Difference
How slow is ‘too slow’ in dating? What’s the difference between waiting and wasting time? Here’s how to tell if your partner’s legitimately setting a reasonable pace as opposed to playing you.
Angela writes, “Hi Susan, I been watching your videos for a couple of years now. I love everything that you do. My question is, how long should a slow burn be? I been dating a guy for over a year now. I brought up defining what we are and monogamy. He said he still wants to get to know each other and see what our relationship can be “
We know ‘too hot too soon’ will ruin a relationship. But what about too slow? When is slow way too slow?
1. The Difference Between Pace and Playing You
2. Setting a Reasonable Timeframe
3. Self-Worth vs. ‘The Dream’
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Work with Me: susanwinter.net/consultation/
The Dating Games Guide: susanwinter.retrieve.com/store/#/
The Older Women | Younger Men Dating Guide: susanwinter.retrieve.com/store/#/bundles/older-women-and-younger-men-bundle
Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache
Audible: www.audible.com/pd/Self-Development/Breakup-Triage-Audiobook/B01KOTL014/ref=a_search_c4_1_1_srImg?qid=1474051066&sr=1-1
Amazon: www.amazon.com/Breakup-Triage-Cure-Heartache/dp/B01KOTN5AI
Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life- Book and Audiobook: www.amazon.com/dp/1479176087
Angela writes, “Hi Susan, I been watching your videos for a couple of years now. I love everything that you do. My question is, how long should a slow burn be? I been dating a guy for over a year now. I brought up defining what we are and monogamy. He said he still wants to get to know each other and see what our relationship can be “
We know ‘too hot too soon’ will ruin a relationship. But what about too slow? When is slow way too slow?
1. The Difference Between Pace and Playing You
2. Setting a Reasonable Timeframe
3. Self-Worth vs. ‘The Dream’
----
Work with Me: susanwinter.net/consultation/
The Dating Games Guide: susanwinter.retrieve.com/store/#/
The Older Women | Younger Men Dating Guide: susanwinter.retrieve.com/store/#/bundles/older-women-and-younger-men-bundle
Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache
Audible: www.audible.com/pd/Self-Development/Breakup-Triage-Audiobook/B01KOTL014/ref=a_search_c4_1_1_srImg?qid=1474051066&sr=1-1
Amazon: www.amazon.com/Breakup-Triage-Cure-Heartache/dp/B01KOTN5AI
Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life- Book and Audiobook: www.amazon.com/dp/1479176087
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How do you know if you love yourself? What does it feel like? How does that look in real life? Here are the four essential components that enable you to agree with the totality of yourself and enjoy your uniqueness. What does self-love look like? What does it feel like to love yourself and how will you ever know if you do? Far too often our image of self-love is really conceit and arrogance. A ...
Seeking a Higher Love? Beware the ‘Spiritual Player!’ | Dating Games and Cons
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Have you fallen for the “Spiritual Player?” You may think you want a spiritual partner- but what you’re really requesting is ethical behavior and higher standards. Here’s the test: We often assume that a ‘spiritual partner’ will be honest and ethical. Of course they would follow a higher standard of behavior, right? Don’t be blinded by the guise or you’ll fail to see the red flags that are so a...
How to Effortlessly Attract Love: 4 Steps to Securing Your Perfect Partnership | Dating Advice
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Struggling to find love? Frustrated, exhausted and in need of hope? Learn the four simple steps to effortlessly attract the love you want and secure your perfect relationship. These are the foundational principles: 1. Hope: Hope is wonderful, and we all need it. But sometimes hope can be harmful. Learn the two different types of hope: which to hold onto and which to let go of. 2. Filtering: Be ...
Discover the '3-6-9 Rule' for Relationships and Why It’s Key to Finding Lasting Love!- Dating Advice
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What is the ‘3-6-9 Rule’ for relationships and why is it crucial for finding a lasting love? Here's how evaluating your relationship at each segment of time will reveal key insights that guide you in determining if this is your ‘person.' Getting to meaningful (and healthy) partnership is increasingly difficult these days. Especially so when partner selection is based on the first few months of ...
Meet Me In Monaco | Susan Winter In-Person Coaching - Live Event
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Meet me in Monaco! I’m heading to Monaco soon and I want to meet with you in person! I only have 2, one-hour session spots left. In-person coaching opportunities are rare. So don’t miss this chance for us to meet and work together. You can book me at the special rate of $600.00. Available dates: August 19th and 20th. Don’t wait, Email now! media@susanwinter.net. Subject Heading: Riviera My favo...
Transactional Relationships-Spot the Signs and Protect Your Heart | Dating & Relationship Advice
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Ever felt like love is more about 'give and take' than genuine connection? You may be in a transactional relationship. Learn how to spot the signs and identify the cycles so you can protect your heart. • Identify Transactional Relationship Signs: Learn how to recognize the key indicators of a transactional relationship and ensure your connection is based on genuine love and respect. Here's how ...
Discover Why He Doesn't Want To Commit To You- LIVE with Jonathon Aslay
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I’m so excited to be coming to you LIVE again. My Thursday shows have been on hiatus for the summer... so this is my chance to reconnect with you all via Jonathon’s channel. My colleague and friend, Jonathon Aslay, is one of America's Leading Mid-Life Dating & Relationship Coaches. We’ll be looking forward to your questions on commitment as well as anything else you care to ask. July 23rd, 8pm ...
When There's Limited Partner Selection---The Magical Wild Card
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Limited partner selection? Don't see anyone you want? Just when you think there are no options left, consider the magical wildcard. This short excerpt shows you that just when you think there's no one to be found, opening your eyes to the new informally unnoticed can be your key to happiness. ATTRIBUTIONS AND THANKS TO: WABC Radio, 'Positively Ernie,' and 77WABCradio. Links below. Keep Up To Da...
"Are We Exclusive?” Mastering Tough Relationship Conversations with Ease- Relationship Advice
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Asking "Are we exclusive?" can be one of the toughest relationship conversations you'll face. Here’s the process for defining your relationship and mastering this challenging juncture with ease and confidence. We all hate having to ask the question. But we need to know. We need to define the relationship for our own peace of mind. Rather than looking weak and needy by asking your partner’s posi...
The Easiest Way to Tell If Someone Is Right for You- Dating Advice
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What's the easiest way to tell if someone is right for you? In early dating everybody seems fabulous. But what's the true test? Here's the answer. Work with Me: susanwinter.net/consultation/ The Dating Games Guide: susanwinter.retrieve.com/store/#/ The Older Women | Younger Men Dating Guide: susanwinter.retrieve.com/store/#/bundles/older-women-and-younger-men-bundle Breakup Triage; The Cure for...
Did They Shift from Pursuer to Passive? Why Chasing Them Now Destroys Your Chances and Confidence
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Did Everything Right and Still Got Dumped? Here’s How to Heal and Rebuild After Heartbreak
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Why WHO We Are Is Important In Life And Love- Positively Ernie ABC
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How to Overcome Dating Anxiety: The Key to Leading with Confidence and Self-Assurance
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Mastering the Art of Letting Go: How to Move On When You're Not Ready- Dating Advice
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How To Overcome Fear of Rejection And Allow Love Into Your Life- Dating and Relationship Advice
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How To Best Communicate With Your Mate- Relationship Advice
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Can't Find the Right Person to Date?- A Limited Selection of 'Not Ready' and 'Not Available'
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Unleash Your Magnificence: Experience The Full Potential Of Your Life - Audiobook
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Unleash Your Magnificence: Experience The Full Potential Of Your Life - Audiobook
Well, I got a better job, gave up the look and style that I liked and copied others on the street,was never overweighted, read books to learn how to comfort others and spent lot of time reflecting on what I did that might push people away...and still no one wants me,I don't think I'll ever find love. it only gets more frustrating everyday
At this point- Moving On.- don't be gullible- spider sense- Finding another place- Stay non committed- create vision.
Letting go - easy- starting over no problem. Focus on the dreams- make it priority- she walked in - she knows where the door out. The book END..Start a new beginning book- shades- Beaches. Create/ Adventure. Exit Ramp- top off - cruising
Never easy - keep yourself busy and active. Eventually it will cease. Focus on the beach and then go back home
It's only a dream!! Sooner or later - will be gone- it will be replaced- depending - easy now for me -.
Long time ago- made a promise with a brother- unfortunately he passed away- stay focused- time has come. FATE - jumped in not suspected this meet Leo- spider sense was off. Anyway was brief encounter. Now - stay focused follow that promise- dream
Susan, you're glowing!
Speaking of texts and honesty, in January I started "No dating by text," where texting is not for anything conversational. Outside of necessary or courtesy texts asking if it is a good time for a call, or logistic information, all communication is by phone call. A couple dates absolutely disliked this. One completely did not honor this request and sent full out communications and refused to call or pick up the phone. Another said he'd honor it but continued sending full convo in text and wouldn't call. Yet the one who did honor this readily, (because he agreed as well,) was refreshing. Granted, he and I were not a match, still it was refreshing to find someone who honored and agreed with my preferred style of commo. The texting was not only uncomfortable for my neck and eyes but, also, was too easy to trigger insecurities. The lack of tone wasn't fun for me. Enjoying your videos SO much! Thank you.
Edit to reply: You have just given me the gumption to give dating another try. :) Thank you. I'd made some daterlife shorts on yt just before I put dating on hold recently but... I'm going to try again. :) Thank you!
felt every word you said 💔
I'm one minute in...if the writer wants more of what he is giving her then stick around. If it has not met her expectations and she wants more, then it seems like a closed deal. Granted, will she always want "more" and is he just feeling her out to see if he can trust her. What does her gut tell her? Looking forward to watching this! Huge fan here, sign me, in AZ!!!
reply to edit: Awesome! Gosh, maybe he has been waiting for her to stand her ground and she is still being a doormat a year later. Sign me, Horse owned lady here too. Oh gosh, sitting on fat pony story, awesome!!!
4:49 an absolute lie. This cannot be always true.
thankyou mam
It's never too late to de tran sition ❤
Definitely that feeling is not love. Real love is sacrifice. It can become love. It's definitely a powerful part of romance.
Thank you for your wisdom. I feel you need a plain background; all the stuff behind you is distracting. Your bedroom is your private space we don't need to see it.
He's playing her, just say it!
I thought limerence was the passion you both feel at the beginning of a relationship which is great but only lasts a few months! Why is everything so complicated these days and attached to anxiety?
Hi Susan.. Thanks for another video with a great topic.. I really love that you are giving a peek into your home.. I suppose it's Nikka sleeping on the bed.. ❤
Communication is the key- open - play it out. If not oh well. F W.B.
Sooo smart and great looking
A year is WILD! He’s not into her, he’s just lonely and many men want female energy around them because they like the attention and the ego boost. He’s just using her until he wants to be in a relationship and/or something better comes along
I'm sure many people watching this video feel the exact same way. For whatever reason… Avoidant, commitmentphobe, has a couple of other people on the back burner… It doesn't matter. He's stringing her along and no matter the words he says that is the actions he takes. Thank you for your commentary.
You are such a wise lady. You look fantastic as always, and give solid, practical advice about a subject that is ruled by anything but practical emotions. I love your videos, please keep them coming ❤
Thank you Jayne Grace ❤
Le monde change pour le meilleur ou pour le pire, tu parles toujours avec une voix de raison. Je t'applaudis de le faire avec un courage sans entraves !!! Continue comme ça !!! Salutations d'Annecy, France !!!❤👩
Merci! I was just in Monaco... wish I could have met you!!
I had an avoidant ex who did this.
Truly, that kind of person can waste so much time. It's not even worth the investment. I'm glad that you are referring to this person as an ex. 😊
@@SusanWinter Thank you Susan. It's so good to hear you say that after I had been convincing myself for so long. I actually get it now. You are a wonderful person thank you.
Thank you Love Goddess for another video on a subject I know nothing about. Knowledge is a vector, and vector is power. Your ability to pass on that vector gives you power !!!
And thank you for the lovely commentary. I know it seems inconceivable that somebody could wait an entire year for an answer as to whether "they were worthy enough to be in a relationship" it makes me really sad when I read these things. I am emailing this person now and hopefully, they won't waste any more time
Not dating related: that blue is gorgeous on you. Ty for the video
Lori, I love the compliment! Thank you!
It really does bring out her eyes
What's weird is I have the opposite problem, my man wants me to be more affectionate and it's something I have to work on. My idea of intimacy is me going on and on talking endlessly about stuff I'm fascinated about, but I know foaming at the mouth talking about science and math stuff isn't very sexy, haha.
Do I want a change- you betcha- been in friend zone - long time- this was destined- at this age set aside my Emotions and Feelings. I have to except what it is. Loner- F.W.B. NON COMMITTED.
When im with a much younger man i find myself acting. Feminine and flirty!! They then turn on their masculine emergy which turns me on!! I whisper how i love their aura and how strong he is! They melt and become caring and protective. Ive had these younger men pay for my grass to be cut!!! Older men are boring and cheap.
Beautiful.
I need help
This is such an important message. We need to strive to have a life that is well-balanced. You truly have to love yourself before you can truly love someone else.
Absolutely ❤!
Yes - does disappear- replace find another with improved version.
I wish I saw this back in February 😢 too late, only me freaking ended up freaking them out and they were the one to dip
Thank you for this video. I needed to hear this!
Here's a unique idea.... if your partner is not making you a priority in his life then find someone else who will. There ! I said it ! Don't be nagging him and telling him he's not making you his priority . You've already told him that told him that quite a few times and nothing's changed. Dump him ! But before you do it make sure you find another guy first who makes you feel wonderful number one !! Then dump !
My little bisexual heart is obsessed with every woman I think is the one... Never had this problem with men as I feel zero romance towards them, just physical attraction and fun. But a connection with a woman hits so different 😭 I want to find my wife ❤
Im happy that even his younger than me i find him so much
Thanks Susan I needed to see this
Iam 18 years old I was obsessed with a person for 10 years but I really thought this is love but I finnnally know the reason it's because I was trying to force him to be a character in my dream not because I love him for his person so yeah thank you so much because you helped me through this ❤
Oh yeah the “I’m sorry u feel that way”…. Half ass insincere apology
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I hate it when people draw you in by love bombing you and then pull away
I finally spoke up about the issue of being either low or no priority and he dropped me real fast and found someone else . Right now it hurts, but I tell myself I will be better off and I'll find someone who respects me and a relationship with me.
When I say I am ready to invest in a relationship, I mean I'm ready to be there physically and emotionally. I totally agree with your message and I hope I am never in such a transactional romantic relationship. I see too many of them around me and I'm too honest with myself to take advantage of someone this way. I want unconditional love ❤
I like him so much I wanted to text him so badly but i don't think he feels the same otherwise he also wanted to text me. So i deleted his contact number so that I cannot text him. I think it's better than begging him to text me or give me attention. However I'm waiting for his text so that I can save his no. again ! Why are we humans so complicated? Or is it just me ?
Spot on!!!! ❤I’m 64 years old now. These people on social media are laughable!!! ❤. I’ll take old school thinking. I’m a fan for life! Much thanks and appreciation Susan!!❤
It is not possible to be friends and have sex with one another. NOPE!
What about their in the military Out of the Country?