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so, you came to your senses, good

Yes, watching this was much needed after getting out of the gentle parenting borderline permissive parenting echo chamber that is reddit

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Screentime is the opposite of helpful for me. I've been in survival mode for years. I use screentime to procrastinate, numb and escape.

I don’t follow any gurus but from what I know gentle parenting is supposed to be authoritative parenting like you said in the beginning. I agreed with most of what you said but you surprised me when you mentioned politics. Wasn’t sure what you meant by simple truths and I don’t think I want to find out haha but good work on rest of the video! No one can be a perfect parent. Mistakes are part of the human experience but I encourage people to be able to admit their mistakes to their kids as well! I’m embarrassed to admit to raising a hand to my kid when I was really young but I have since apologized and told her what I did was not okay and she did not deserve to be handled that way. I think it can also send a powerful message to your kid about taking responsibility for your actions bc you truly are modeling the adult you want your kid to become. If they see you grow as a person, they know they can grow as well.

My single mother was very permissive. Her mantra she actually repeatedly said to me was "you're going to do what you want anyways so I'm not even going to try to tell you differently ". As a teenager I thought it was great. Now, as an adult I'm pretty annoyed with her that I dropped out and lived on the streets at 15 for 5 years and messed my life up. She barely did anything to stop me. Thanks, like I really knew what I was doing at 15.

Great points!

I very much disagree with some of the things you say. My parents stayed together and that wasn't a good thing. I never saw an example of a healthy relationship from them and I suffered because of them staying together when they we're not happy together. Also if you are in a relationship and you are carrying a lot of the weight on your own and your partner doesn't see or understand that and is unwilling to work on it, it is good for no-one. Also when you choose to create a life together, often times we are still very young. A lot can change in a life, we evolve and grow and that can mean that 2 people no longer fit together at some point

Thank you, this was really useful!

What if your toddler isn’t talking yet? It’s a wee bit difficult if you can’t have a conversation with your child yet

I never have, never would have done this "trend" because I could see it was garbage (even as a teen). Glad to see other people catching on to it!

Avital! You have changed ao much over the 8 years tht ive seen ur videos! You had scripts of wven what to say to others for not giving gifts . I am so happy that we are growing together 😂 and its see how ur more relaxed!! I am hoping to get there too!

Parents create these entitled monsters and then complain about the child⁉️🥴 I have seen this many, many times. I do not sit and listen to the bashing of the child.....I gently point out ,”What did you expect?” When you teach them nothing about the joys of work/ accomplishment, responsibility,appreciation etc. Yet indulge their every little whim & desire.... and then you think they are going to turn out to be a decent human being😱⁉️ NO‼️ It doesn’t work that way AT ALL‼️ I used to let people tell me how “lucky” I was as our girls were sensible, appreciative etc. THEN I decided “NO!! ....The way they turned out had little to zero to do w/ luck!!” So, I would say so. It took a lot of prayer, clear logical thinking and deep love & dedication towards their well beingto have the desired result. NOT being their ‘friend & cash machine. We made mistakes, no doubt, but overall we did ok for becoming parents at ages under 20 yrs old. One thing we would do is more study of God’s Word and how it applies to everyday living. Also, more practical information on $money management$. Otherwiswe we feel we did a decent job of raising 2 real responsibe,lovable ladies. Comon sense,firm boundaries, a solid establishment of mutual respect, and accountability, and lots of love. When all of this comes together there will be minimal need for “clashes”, disrespect and discipline. Put the effort in up front, then sit back and enjoy your adult ‘children’ and wonderful grandchildren❤️🥰 God bless .☮️❣️

I lost my shit in 2014 tried real hard to recover from but in 2019 i went way over the red line all because of the my hurt and others added on like gang around me to reserve more abuse than nessery its not just those years its others as well you try to hel from it's not just physical but physiological trauma but some of us are made to take a few hits or two you just keep pushing forwards never looking backwards yesterday has been done be greatful of my and yours and others presence ❤

Best video on the Internet.

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Thanks, it help me a lot.😊 i really love ❤️

So true and differentiated, love it

I found your b-school testimonial when I looked up “homeschooling and running a business” and I’m really glad I did 🙌 My husband and I have run our business together for 7 years and we homeschool our four kids too. Even more encouraging hearing you talk through this philosophy too 🎉

I just found your channel. I love the, we dont need to dig in my history and find all my traumas. I'm looking forward to growing to be a better mommom

true wisdom here

My child is autistic. He’s abusive to me verbally/physically. No amount of meds or therapy help. I feel burdened, trapped, and even when I take breaks, it doesn’t matter.

Wow, perfect score! 9 out of 9. I sadly realise I think I've been in survival mode pretty much from the age of 6, when my parents effectively split up. Thanks a lot, I will be on my way to recovery.

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Having a newborn, been reading Reclaim Play and there's sooo many things that resonate with me and with how I want to raise my son. All of these tips are definitevely sth we'll be trying soon (we're still at the hospital 😊). Thank you ❤

So uplifting ⭐️great advice

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I think it's always great to take bits and pieces of lots of techniques that work best for you! Good for you for putting aside the things that don't resonate with you!

This is a wonderful video! I feel every parent, no matter the parenting style, should listen to this. I am the mother of a teen and a preteen. I have found the older ages need guidance and boundaries, according to their age of course, even more so than younger ones. My husband and I have always been the take what works and leave the rest kind of people so honestly we've never labeled our parenting. However we both fit within the sphere of authoritative parenting, with my husband a bit more authoritarian and me a bit more permissive which I feel has helped because together we have balanced each other out to meet in the middle. My kids aren't perfect, and neither are we as parents, but I am extremely proud of them. They are kind and respectful of others yet also rather self aware for their ages. My sister in law has younger children, an almost 4 year old and a 9 month old. She is fully a part of gentle parenting and it can honestly be quite frustrating to witness. So many times when together we've had to push back dinner or other planned activities because the oldest is throwing a fit and doesn't want to put on shoes, get in the car, sit at the table etc. I just stand there and think how insane it feels that the wants of preschooler are somehow trumping those of 8 other people, all of whom are older than her. They joke she is the ruler of the house, which is sad to see they recognize it but don't see the issue. I worry how hard it will be for her as she grows up and can't have her way all the time as real life simply doesn't work that way. Editing my comment to add that I don't want to come across as judging their parenting. In the end they are simply trying to be the best parents they can be and they feel gentle parenting has the least liklihood of causing harm without realizing the harm being too permissive can be.

My first homebirth is coming up. ❤😮

This was great, thank you <3

Where your talking about writers being unwilling to state simple truths about what's good, or bad for kids, what is that?

Exceptional content! Thank you for being yourself ❤

I'm here to just watching your video

I reaaaaally wanted to have at least 5 kids I adore my children (2 girls) but the eldest is a HSC and OMG so hard to put on the clothes + “the terrible two” + she is jealous of little sister 👧🏻 she wakes up crying and screaming it is so hard to put her to sleep I am really tired 😢

I needed this ❤ thank you

We are learning mama! I agree. I tend to oscillate between strict authority and gentle. You called it out! SHAME AND GUILT sways me to lean towards more gentle making up for my strict firm and even rage fits. Power and control is inevitable in all relationships. We also have different sets of values among each family member. Where is that balance between gentle to firm authority guiding?

You better take notes.

So you are ACTUALLY CONDITIONING after a few such episode the child, that WITH an INSTANT, AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOUR, with high arrousal (that could hurt, damage, etc. the other AND CAUSES PHYSICAL PAIN) she got CARE, ATTENTION, CONVERSATION at the end... on low arrousal! BRAVOOOO! Physical agression means "out of hugs"... JFC!

A memory that has stuck with me for a very long time is seeing my uncle on a camping trip put so much care into spreading peanut butter basically he was a really good dude and I don't know there's just so much slow movement get the butter spread heat was explaining to me the importance of doing both sides of the bread just yeah so sometimes I think about that with my own children what am I presenting

I see many parents overparenti g, and then, feeling strong rejection towards their kids because they are burnt out (and kids become so demanding! ) As a résult, parents dream of "free Times" so escape home because they feel trapped, and speak poorly of being a parent.

These kids running the adult over from what I see. Fixed consistent discipline never fails.

You've made me wonder now. As someone who parented before I knew that was a word, and bumbled alone in the dark in the dim days before this great enlightenment of internet parenting knowledge sharing, I have felt sad to have not had this good knowledge when I most needed it. But what you have said here leaves me feeling in touch with the great sense of liberation there actually was in being a parent back then. All this understanding of how to do better by our children turns out to be in a massive burden and anxiety provoking to this generation of parents. Such an important idea to start moving beyond this tragic, unintended down side. Thank you for reminding me that my ability to relax and be myself (eg. a maverick) was probably the best thing I brought to parenting. I have noticed when people speak about their childhoods what stands out is the fond reminiscence about a parent's very individual quirks. Who wants to be remembered for having a fake smile and always saying exactly the right thing?

So agree! ❤

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I really love these new styles of videos with Hi, Fam! compared to the previous message. I feel like instead of retelling us the ideas of other parenting experts, you're being the expert yourself and building a more well-rounded approach to BEING a PARENT! Thank you

Even if you do step in to influence, part of parenting is knowing that you are going to have to watch them pick many things up from many places of influence. You have to accept that it will happen and hope you've done enough that your children can navigate those new areas of influence.

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