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When u get told about yourself

1. Giving voice a. Make plans 2 listen 2 ur keiki👂🏽 b. Wen dey speak b prepared 2 come front & center, look into der 👀 c. If u can, touch der shoulder or cheek d. Say yes, niño wat do u need? e. B prepared 2 meet da needs wen u can f. Wenevah u can, say yes 2 a request, do g. Wen u have 2 say no, let dem know dey r still heard 🔊

🤔 Muchas gracias

Beautiful thank you

Incorcendinatle

This is great! Thank you ❤️

I know Im not a child anymore but I remember that snuggles were a must. I was called a velcro child. But that quickly stopped when I was a teen. I didn't know why but as years went by I can see that I am not close to my mom as I was before. When she unexpectedly touch me I jerk back. I wasn't want for the touch... But anyways I am 21 years old and My mom has said Why dont you act your age. there were lots of neuro stuff that happened in the past and I am a bit slow. ive also notice my mom changed a lot these past few months and I am not used to that. She's very different.

Insane high quality and engaging video, Sending my love from Rajeshs basement ❤, nigga

Insane high quality and engaging video, Sending my love from Rajeshs basement ❤, nigga

Insane high quality and engaging video, Sending my love from Rajeshs basement ❤, nigga

Insane high quality and engaging video, Sending my love from Rajeshs basement ❤, nigga

Insane high quality and engaging video, Sending my love from Rajeshs basement ❤, nigga

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Insane high quality and engaging video, Sending my love from Rajeshs basement ❤, nigga

Oh yes love watching this in class 🍆💦🍑🤫🤭

No Drama Discipline-" What happened, What could have been done differently, What do we need to do to make this right?"

Definitely a needed topic! Thanks

This applies on societal level to populations.

I found this to be a very practical way to look at and build our own personal community.

used time in for 18 years and it works!

I agree with some of what you are saying. Punishment is not always the answer. But I never hear you bring up what God says about teaching and discipline. How is it that we have outsmarted God?

Watching from Hyderabad, India. I am a Trauma-Informed trainer. Excited to learn from you guys.

nice video

Time out where they can see us is very effective at getting our son to calm down. Super Nanny strategy FTW

Fantastic explanation of self-regulation.

❤❤❤❤nice video❤❤❤❤

Watching from Hyderabad, India

Welcome

nice video

nice video

I loved this ❤!

I hear what your saying but what about the child who does not respond to this?

Such an amazing insight what you can learn on by watching these videos

All the parents should be reading her books and following her. she is so good in what she is doing.

Thanks for this special podcast, listening from India.

really inspired by this post! praising God for its timely message for our family with a 10 yr old daughter who just attended her first birthday sleepover, in which the birthday girl received a phone as her big gift. my husband picked our daughter up the next day and she started telling us about how much she enjoyed the party UNTIL the phone gift, which in turn prompted the rest of the guests to pull out their phones. she said it rendered her feeling isolated and reading a book the rest of the time because she doesn't have an electronic device. it was a good opportunity for us to reiterate our position on electronics for her at this point, and preemptively think about how we could handle this situation when she hosts her first sleepover soon (decided we'd respectfully request that guests shut off whatever devices they plan on bringing until we have a designated "do your own thing time period" throughout the night). as a family that values emotional intelligence behind our faith, we are intentional about providing opportunities for our daughter (an only child) to learn how to relate to friends/family/peers/people, from as healthy a place as possible. its hard to get to know someone/build strong relationships/learn more about yourself , etc...if your face is glued to a screen. I am especially grateful for learning about how deceptively benign some of these online gaming platforms present themselves to be. that's extremely unnerving for me as a mother of a girl-child. it will definitely help us to make a more informed decision about electronics for her when the time comes. it's important that we teach our children about impulse control and executive functioning as early as possible. especially as it relates to the subject at hand. however my personal experience has been that the parents who are so eager to hand their children an electronic device without considering the child's current state of maturity, its implications, and not having a concrete system for proper useage/boundaries in place surrounding the device, are the same parents who in turn shame/guilt/berate said child for NOT demonstrating the capability to do so. in my opinion, it unfortunately has to do with parents failure to help foster self-regulation/management in their formative years. we were blessed to have run across a particular tool that was extremely effective when our daughter was a toddler. it involved expectation setting, natural consequences and sharing the power with her when we could. we'd simply tell her where we were going (ie; target to get cat litter, Daddy's shaving cream, snacks). we'd tell her our expectations (ie; when we get out of the car please use your "safe hand" - magnet that taught her to place one hand on the vehicle to prevent her from running into traffic...please use walking feet/inside voice...please look with your eyes and ask before touching/ grabbing, etc.) we shared the power (ie; if we have time/you've been such a good helper today that we can look at books/toys/whatever you like! Come and set your timer *she'd grab our phone and use the alarm function to set a timer usually based on age sometimes longer/shorter...bonus - helped with number recognition at that age. when the alarm went off it was an audible alert for her signaling it was time to transition). **full transparency - we are eternally blessed that like my husband, our sweet girl is by nature inherently mild-mannered and maintains a gentle spirit. we don't take for granted how much her temperament has contributed to the success we enjoy living a quiet and peaceful life as a family, especially as we have intentionally helped guide her to her current developmental stage. be that as it may she is still a little human and has had moments of upset that we were thankfully able to help her navigate before they escalated into full-blown tantrums. mainly because as a proud homemaker, I had the precious commodity of time to do so. and I did! with great honor and gusto! I took EVERY chance afforded to me, to give her the tools she needed to manage those moments of big emotions, praying that she'll be able to use them to help her for years to come. in my position, it was my duty. I owed it to her, our family, her friends, her future husband; to set her up for success. that meant sometimes being late to events/appointments. not being able to attend functions. stepping out of a restaurant, movie, etc. all in the name of teaching her how to self-regulate. it was inconvenient, annoying and sometimes unfair. but we stand by our decision as we see how making those sacrifices back then have helped, her become the well-adjusted preteen that our sphere of influence have come to know and love so much. 💜 lengthy post I know! 😁 but I just felt led to share our experience of being purposeful as opposed to perfect. setting expectations and being consistent with communication and consequences. and how ultimately, she was mature enough to understand that when it comes to personal screen time for her in our home, it's a "not yet" situation; and she's ok with it! keep up the PHENOMENAL work ETC!!! I shared these podcasts with almost everyone I know! peace and blessings 🙏🏽

10yr old video, 60k views and 600 likes haha - that says it all, what an utter load of absolute rubbish. "Lets reinvent parenting", yeah sure because you're smarter than the accumulated knowledge of countless generations... good luck to the future

She doesn’t get near enough recognition for the work she did with children from “hard places.” We lost her way too early.

This was incredibly helpful for my kiddos! We grew our family on the first day of lockdown 2020 with an 18 mon old & a 13 year old! Our 7 year old was adopted back in 2016. I can not thank you enough for making this episode!

I'm close friends with people working in law enforcement child trafficking unit, electronic crimes, plus we are active in the adoptive community. Can you be more specific to how trauma of the job affects the family, but also family with children from disruption and hard places?

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So grateful for this woman all these years later! ❤

Thank you for the information and right to the point explanation

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Super informative

Karen is a genius! Wisdom of connecting in proximity makes the child feel safe as you are present to support them navigate towards the responsibility of living in community respectability.

I have one huge regret about discovering your videos. And that is ? That i didn't find them sooner. I came from a very abusive and mentally ill mother. And alcoholism raged on my Dad's side of the family. I grew up with bullets flying and having to seek cover. For me and my 2 younger brothers, who are only one year and two years younger than me. So at 3yrs old my brothers were 2yrs and 1yrs of age. And the motherly protection started that young. Children have always been my calling from God. To protect, nurture and, teach how special and loved they are. And then as a Sunday school teacher the goodness of God. And the love he has for each and every child. Red, yellow, black and white. All are precious in his sight. I have always had a fascination with psychology also. Even though i never even graduated high school. I only completed the 8th grade actually but i was at a 12th grade reading level in 9th grade. I have a big vocabulary due to the reading abilities I possessed. So many people don't know that about me. LoL My need for learning and continuing to read and learn has boosted my abilities further. I always want to learn the psychology of how to understand and deal with children at their level of understanding. While showing great compassion for children and help in healing the broken ones. With God's love and, the knowledge of how to appropriately do so from each. Right and lovingly sourced I can find, so stumbling upon your videos has been nothing short of a blessing to me. I feel like you're teaching people from the very heart of Jesus. And the heart Jesus has also placed in me. I just want to thank you for spending your life and your life experiences. To teach others how to lovingly and gently handle not only discipline. But how to show respect to children, the respect that they deserve. Some people act as if children have no rights at all. And are their property and it's wrong and sad. Sorry this is long but even with my level of education ive been working for 2yrs. On Cashian's Law and Awareness Campaign. A law I hope to someday get passed into NC law. And awareness about traumatic separation from children and their parents/ caregivers. It's about the damages it causes and not taking these damages lightly. And reducing the number of children who experience this traumatic separation. In the instances that it can be reduced and not have to happen. Unless there's no other choice in the matter. There are instances that it can't not be helped. Such as parental death, incarceration or abandonment. And there are cases where it is not necessary. Yet happens to thousands and thousands of children with no thought or regard. To the severity of the catastrophic irreversible mental damages to children's mental health. Thanks again for your work and sharing it with the world. I'm sure God has blessed you for it.

Kathryn Purvis was a genius. Talk about someone being a light! I wish I had met her in person or seen her speak during her lifetime. I will never forget some of these concepts she developed and taught. I hope I can live up to what I have learned from videos of her. Thank you!

Amazing! Thank you!

It's a very short video but a lot of powerful content. Thank you Dr. Karyn!