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The problem is when the PARENT has the separation anxiety lol.

Thats the key. Keeping it basic, simple, fun and instructional. My mother would insist a 3 yr old adhere to the equivalent of sorting lego by colour and size, scrub each one and then put it away in individual tubs and never tell you thats what she wanted. Apparently all you need to teach is watch mum and never ask questions. Adults very rarely even do that level of cleaning and organising, why tf would you hold toddlers to something adults dont do?!. Class chores and responsibilities on age and skill level, not an over controlling adult that borders on OCD skill with no ability to teach.

SOOO TRUE!!

You're doing a Good thing.👍🏻

My youngest likes riding a bike..I tell him we should go for a ride,lets just put all this toys away and when we come back we can make something again..We make another mess😂😂

What happens when you set them up to succeed and they're still not putting the toys away?

I've never had a 2 yr old who DIDN'T want to help mommy with everything. They aren't chores at that age.

Wow insightful thank you

Kids will always push you as far as you will let them push you. Always make sure that kids know the consequences for not listening.

I was raised by an abusive parent, so I, unfortunately, mostly experienced screaming, constant overwhelm, & not much else. (Not looking for sympathy. It is what it is. I'm just pointing out that this was a 180 degree difference for me.) The way you just put this made my brain explode. Thank you for your perspective. ❤ *I'm also AuDHD, & your approach would've been perfect for me.

Yes toddlers can do chores like picking up toys and dirty clothes

I like this. Just feels like a more natural, organic process for introducing youngsters to responsabilities etc. 😊

As an occasional daycare worker, I really appreciate parents like you. It genuinely makes the transition so much easier on the child. They cry for a few minutes and then are distracted and happy in the next.

It also teaches them discipline because kids need a routine.

It’s challenging as I only need to leave my little one at childcare at church but they won’t take her if she’s crying so I wish I could do this. :(

Kids of all ages and most abilities can help! Its an important step in teaching responsibility, empathy, kindness, and cleanliess

Yes yes yes!

I let my 20 month old help with whatever she can. She brings forks, spoons and napkins to the table every meal time we have at home. She puts dirty clothes in the hamper. And we let her have a turn cleaning up her tray after a meal. And we give her lots of praise when she helps. Firmly believe in letting her do what she can.

You’re really like parental support !! 🎉

Toy rotation and SHELVES. (yes-anchored to the wall...of course😊).

What do all your children do? I bet theyre all successful and in healthy relationships

Oh so avoiding the child and thinkingbthey follow you because your a leader when its anxiety

This actually choked me up a little you have such a beautiful mindset ❤️

My toddler loves to "help"😂 though it is not very practical most of the time... but she has picked up some helpful habits like putting away toys or putting her rubbish in the trash for me (empty yogurt pouches, dirty diapers etc). Mostly it is just play for her. She loves wiping up messes and sweeping but is less successful at these tasks. She wants to help wash her dishes sometimes too so I let her do a small bit before she gets too distracted by the temptation of water play. I think she is still a bit young now but maybe I will give her a few formal chores next year when she is closer to four.

I would get bullied and lectured for 1-5 HOURS- for doing something as simple as rolling my eyes. I remember being up at 5 am with the sun starting to light the sky at 6 years old - thinking this can’t be normal.

My mother has a scar from where my aunt bit her. The second I bit her, she bit me, and I never did it again

Thats just being dismissive 💀 no wonder you talk so agressively abt your kid self. She didnt teach you solutions but passively shamed you💀 it worked and now you pretend like its not just mean. You got slight bullying at home and call it leadership💀

I really relate to the no-nonsense energy, and I love it ❤✋ You're absolutely right ... The issue is really me: I'm tired/ burntout + losing my temper/ allowing them to offend me, my reaction is only rewarding the bad behaviour + doing nothing but make us all feel bad. If I could make it a habit to just let the crap roll off, and zero in on the good stuff, perhaps my mood will change too... ❤ I'll try!

That is actually solid advice.

I was a climber. My late 1980s crib was no march for me. My parents have laughed at how they "locked me in my room" and "We had to put the lock on the outside of the door to keep you in." They laugh about it openly. It's one of those stories that when you first tell the story yourself, thinking haha it must be a funny antidote," that you realize, no... no, it is not a cute funny story. My toddler is already getting a vasty different upbringing than i had. I've recently gone "low" contact with my parents and sister. It's better for everyone.

You have to have more than 5 toys?

What Pathetic Parenting. !

Okay, but if your toddler intentionally hurts my kid, make them apologize. I don't need that bad behavior rubbing off on my kid.

I need to try this.

Thank you for the examples!!

I love your videos, thank you so much for uploading them!

I'm 45 and could do with you being my Mum.

I bit my sister's arm,my mother bit me. I never ever bit anyone again.

You just got yourself a new subscriber sister !! Thank you for this !

At age 3, I was home alone with my Grandma while single mom was at work and 2 siblings at school. I emptied 3 bedroom small wastebaskets in main garbage on Mondays, handed her clothespins and put dry socks in basket. I made money! 3 cents! Got a raise when I turned 4! To 4 cents😂

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Structure is good - positive reinforcement and age-appropriate tasks. That really helps everyone in the house!

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Motivating Empathetic Awe-inspiring

That’s it? Mine actually clean!!

Toddlers are soooo physically demanding 😅

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CHOOSE LOVE ❤

Not evety child is same. My girl is extremely hyper active & rejects going down even if shes yawning multiple times. Bedtime was the most difficult task for me. I still co sleep with my 2.7 months old toddler, sometimes she sleeps with her dad in his room. I did the same thing with her during the initial days ... I closed all window curtains , lights switched off and our room locked. Initially she used to throw tantrums, tries to sneak away from the room 😂 but now she doesn't as she knows bedtime means she has to sleep anyway. She has changed now. I am happy 😊

My question is how to come up with appropriate consequences that I can be consustent with